Eldering rules for the new millenium

One of the early emails in RantWoman's compost thread mentions a principle propounded by the late author of our Meeting's most current statement on how to do Clearness Committees: in her day, which was decades ago, Friends were only allowed to elder others if they liked the person. This is one principle behind Dear Friend's interventions on the matter of RantWoman's nomination. RantWoman is reserving judgment on Dear Friend; this entry is a more general point.

RantWoman has a concern that perhaps the level of evident likability may not always be easily discernible and the need to elder before one likes the person very profound. RantWoman thus proposes a couple new principles, updated for the current millenium:

--Friends wishing to elder someone must find at least ONE thing to like about the person for each eldering encounter.

--Friends obliged to elder someone more than 5 times about the same topic are allowed to substitute appreciation for the opportunity to practice eldering skills for any additional likability factors PROVIDED they also consider the possibility that if 5 efforts have not worked, perhaps they need to seek new Light on the matter. Remedial Eldering anyone?