Sunday, September 27, 2020

Kate Hunter Virtual Memorial

New for the #pandemic: Virtual memorials.


RantWoman has no idea how many of her blog readers knew Kate Hunter. RantWoman knew her slightly and had no idea she was as old as she was. It sounds like she would have been an inspiration for RantWoman at an age where RantWoman liked one babysitting customer, perhaps ironically from the Baptist church, because there was Ms. Magazine in the house. True to RantWoman's general generational shift meditations, it occurs to RantWoman to wonder what has become of her young charge who now would also be dipping into middle age. Did she stay feminist like her mother? Did she follow her lawyer father (who had a first name he probably got teased mercilessly about in school) into Republican activism? Inquiring minds suddenly want to know.


Anyway, RantWoman wants to honor Kate's life by posting this invitation as is. But since this is RantWoman and RantWoman's life is way too rich in technological blindness tourism, RantWoman may make a separate post on her other blog about User Experience whines and grumbles. 


From a posting to...:

I am forwarding the following from Jim Hauser, Kate's husband. She was a member of UFM and usually we hold a Memorial for members who have died. Instead of our traditional Meeting for Worship for a Memorial, Jim invited us to join in the online Memorial he has set up to honor Kate.



Since COVID prevents us from gathering face to face in large numbers, I’ve put up a memorial for Kate on line.  The site includes some site guidance, a written obituary, a video of Kate saying goodbye to her family as she enters hospice care, a biography of her life in photos, and spaces for your own comments, photos, even short videos.


Here’s how to access all of that on the site. I’ve tried to send this notice to everyone, but I also want you to feel free to pass it on to others who knew Kate.


1.  Go to the website   GatheringUs.com   


2.  In the Search box write in Kate Hunter.  Her photo will appear with a short column of text at the top, right of that page.


3.  Click    See More    to read my intentions for using and sharing the page.


4.  Below Kate’s photo is a written obituary.


5.  When you have read that, go back to the top and click Memories & Condolences.  First you will see the video.  Below the video is a series of photos of Kate’s life.

  

6.  To add comments/photos, go back to the top of the page and notice below Kate’s Photo there is a line      Click here to share a memory or condolence.  A click will take you to a login page where you need to set up an account.  Your Facebook or Google account will work.  

(RantWoman will probably add these sentiments. Probably.)

If all those instructions seem a bit teacherly…….well, I am one after all.


Peace, dear friends.

J



RantWoman's main user experience whines so far: 

a short version of the rant that regular readers of the site SHOULD NOT EVEN HAVE TO THINK ABOUT.


--RantWoman really likes the narrative that comes with the Memories and condolences link. There is nothing similar in the link marked photos. As usual with descriptive text, it can be hard both to convey the story and to convey something about what is in the picture.

--Alert screen reader users note use of the work "link." RantWoman suspects there may be as much user skill level as design issues behind RantWoman's difficulty finding the links but the links do exist)

--Some of the pictures have descriptive filenames. Some of the pictures get read by screen readers as long series of numbers. People can fix this by giving pictures descriptive filenames before loading them into the site but really the site should make it easy for people to add some kind of descriptive text. 


RantWoman supposes she could also share the memorial on Facebook and see what Facebook's photo identification does with the photos, but really RantWoman wants the story not just "Photo may contain foliage, 7 people and a protest sign."


Rest in Power Kate and my deepest sympathies to your family, especially when you stumble back into their consciousness at all kinds of weird moments.

Friday, September 25, 2020

Sitting Shiva for RBG: LUKA SULIC - Kol Nidrei

This performance of the Kol Nidre is dedicated to the life and legacy of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg. The Kol Nidre is a lament, usually performed by solo cello and orchestra, except in the world of high school music festivals where there is cellist and a pianist and a piano reduction and a judge, not a Supreme Court Justice, just some kind of adult musician marking on a scoring sheet. The piece is fantastically difficult with a good bit up in the violin range high on the A string. It is also the sort of piece where "In the future, stay in the listening lane" can definitely be on point.

RantWoman's first inclination, while on her humble effort to sit shiva in memorial and reflection for a time,  was to find a performance by a woman. The first video RantWoman found, by Jacqueline DuPre was too scratchy. RantWoman likes this performance better and besides it can be dedicated also to Justice Ginsberg's friendship with Justice Antonin Scalia. RantWoman is pretty sure, no matter how much she talks about praying together across differences that she could not have pulled that off.

But here, listen to the music.  Celebrate the life of someone who died on Rosh Hoshanah, the Jewish New Year, a time of renewal. According to Jewish tradition a person who dies on Rosh Hoshanah is a Tzaddik, a person of great righteousness.

Pray. Pray in the legacy and power of a very brave and gutsy champion of people, people of all genders.Pray for our country because about a kajillion things can definitely go wrong, and because there are at least as many reasons to aim for hope and faith and renewal. And this is RantWoman, so besides the lace collars, the repeated bouts of cancer, the towering presence, other more problematic reflections from RantWoman's own life are likely to wander in below, after the video.

  


The sight of 100 former law clerks for Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg lined up outside the Supreme Court, masked, socially distanced, awaiting the arrival of her casket a couple days ago was almost, ALMOST enough to make RantWoman rethink several decisions not to go to law school. 

Becoming a lawyer was not even on RantWoman's distant mental horizon in college. In fact, RantWoman has been known to quip that she has not gone to law school because the US does not need more lawyers per capita than any other industrialized nation. 

But RantWoman also has, um, interesting life experience about lawyers including several moments where more than one kind of lawyer was needed at a time, need to contact Russian-speaking lawyers about an estate issue involving a possible heir in Kazakhstan, the tangle of different legal themes involved in a college sit-in, and the meaning of "Right of Return" when some powerful human rights activists RantWoman did political work with in college were moved to plead at the Israeli consulate in NY about the rights of Palestinians being brutalized in two refugee camps in 1982. This last was one of several times where RantWoman in a support role literally had no idea what was going on because events evolved in ways not predicted.

What is all of this doing in reflections about Justice Ginsburg. Reading about Justice Ginsburg renews RantWoman's courage. RantWoman is not called to be a Supreme Court Justice. That does not mean RantWoman needs courage any less.

RantWoman also feels underinformed about the High Holy days, underinformed in a way that just going and reading say a Wikipedia entry will not fix. RantWoman wants to send to the universe a whole lot of forgiveness and need to keep trying about some hard things. 

RantWoman is also reading the schedule for virtual quarterly meeting and realizes she meant to pay attention to a timeline and will now have to do plan B.
 
Hold in the light.

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Faith Action Network welcomes new regional organizer and other updates

 The bulletin here fills RantWoman with so much joy and hope that she HAS to invite readers to read the many info items and opportunities themselves.

Faith Action Network Bulletin        


RantWoman also admits, RantWoman wishes that the site and the bulletin had options to Share in social media channels and to embed in places like RantWoman's blog. RantWoman's own web design / blog technical skills are pretty limited so everyone gets to click on the link above to see the festive red splash. 


RantWoman means it though about MUCH to cheer her.


Saturday, September 19, 2020

Appreciation; writers' papers and ...

RantWoman has not read a lot of Quaker journals, but definitely subscribes to the Blog as Quaker journal model of blogging. Entries are unevenly edited. Topics jump all over the place. There are frequent unplanned sojourns to Planet RantWoman and the land of stuff extremely important to blind people and other #PWD but boring or irritating to others. There may be random links of no obvious relationship to the main post. In past centuries this stuff would go into a writer's papers to be send off to a library somewhere and pored over by scholars perhaps after the writer's death. This is 2020. Storage is cheap. Electrons run free. And RantWoman's blogs are by far nowhere near the weirdest thing on the internet. But readers please hold in the Light as you read and do not worry if you grasp only what really speaks to you.

Bus Chick reflects

What ARE We all called to do?

Snark about nightly protests


Black text with some red underlining and a red arrow pointing at the word love
Text of the image
...forgiveness. Peacemaking doesn't meam passivity. It is the act of interrupting injustice
without mirroring injustice, the act of disarming evil without destroying the evildoer
the act of finding a third way that is neither fight nor flight but the careful arduous 
pursuit of reconciliation and justice. It is about a revolution of love that is big enough
to set both the oppressed and the oppressors free  
 





Tuesday, September 15, 2020

Still Smoked. Ableism? White Supremacy? Intertwined? Oh My!

Practical terminology

Oh Heck, RantWoman would be happy to begin with a reprise of some disability related points in a recent post.

--SO, we've solved Ableism? We know everything we need to about accessible meetings, alternate formats, technological and physical accessibility, access for people with different access needs to the same info? We know everything we need to know and everything is perfect just in time to tackle the point that people with disabilities are overrepresented in jails and prisons. OF course we want to use resources better for services and support, but we don't need no stinking committee anymore? RantWoman tartly notes that, aside from the LONG tenure of her own efforts to talk about disability, the charge of the AdHoc Disabilities committee was to run for a year from December 2019. That charge absolutely needs to be renewed.

RantWoman might want to throw in terminology like "reasonable accommodations, public accommodations,: vocational rehabilitation, andi-discrimination laws, and a whole glossary of feet on the ground, let's work on this practical stuff.
The View off RantWoman's balcony
Today's WildFire Haze


Ableism and White Supremacy Intertwined.

However, RantWoman, lucky chick that she is has also come upon the following item

Ableism and White Supremacy are Intertwined: Truthou

How do Friends think this article relates to say testimonies on Equality, Integrity, community?

How might addressing the themes presented here enrich the worship and community life at UFM?



A Third path

And for a third path toward praying together across differences, RantWoman highly recommends Joe Snyder Bible study. Details findable with the search bar. 


Currently, we are reading the book of Mark. RantWoman is glad actually to think different things on different days about the subject of disability in the book of Mark, Jesus frees people with disabilities of public scorn by the scandalous act of performing miracles on the Sabbath. Bible study sometimes looks at literary structure, sometimes at the different hues of meaning that poke out as words get shepherded from one language to another. Other meaingful moments get shared. Join us.


In Light and Faithfulness and severe #SeattleSmoke irritationt

RantWoman


Monday, September 14, 2020

Us? Come to think of it...!

 Come to think of it.... YOU vs US?

(RantWoman writes here of much she is clear about. RantWoman actually is also UNclear about a number of points that probably deserve a separate post. RantWoman is grateful for openings from the continued flow of information and will be doing her best to deliver seasoned thoughts in the direction of the openings. RantWoman also has a ferocious leading to nurture the Light of Friends younger than 60 and arch beginning oboe student commentary related to the process right now.)

When Something Freaky Happens

RantWoman currently has a thing about, when something freaky happens checking with observers / other characters as soon as possible after the something freaky happens. If something rises from the below RantWoman invites readers to leave a comment and please specify whether you mean it to be public. Other options would be to contact the convenors of the FLGBTQC worship space.

RantWoman thanks the FLGBTQC online worship for helping hold space maybe to start a  conversation that is badly needed. RantWoman is happy to take up as much space / entertain as much of an audience as Friends are willing to offer; RantWoman, though, wonders whether there could be some kind of clearness process that does not take up the whole worship but does draw some seasoned Friends from outside Seattle and space to see where the worship conversation could be led. RantWoman has also been expressing concern about whether a number of points might come up in worship. Some of those points come up below.

RantWoman is inclined to ask the convenors to help season these points. RantWoman also humbly notes that sometimes she does better in writing than in person. Sometimes voices can be extremely valuable; sometimes RantWoman really has to comb thoughts together via fingers and keyboard.

That said, one strand of needed conversation in the worship involved three Friends besides RantWoman, Great Cat Names Friend, New Last Name Friend, and Motivator Friend. RantWoman prefers for a number of reasons to use pseudonyms. Anyone who recognizes themselves and absolutely cannot live with the ones assigned is invited to suggest something they would prefer.

Reasonable? Reasonable Accommodations.

New Last Name Friend and Great Cat Names Friend both work with children who have special needs. Motivator Friend has a community college teaching job where having people make reasonable accommodations requests is a normal usual thing. RantWoman wonders why any of these Friends think "Go away for a year" is acceptable if they are serious about working with reasonable accommodations. RantWoman will thank these Friends in advance for not trying to tell RantWoman that the conversation has nothing to do with reasonable accommodations!

RantWoman is probably getting repetitive about this point: God keeps sending people with disabilities to our communities and expecting us to figure things out. RantWoman thinks "figure things out is not " starts with shared worship and shared worship that does not require RantWoman to wait around either for an engravved inviation or for everyone to get over their ableism. If one does not come to worship prepared to be transformed, around RantWoman one is not worshipping!

 RantWoman also notes many people who keep telling RantWoman of decisions and not ASKING RantWoman anything such as her perspective on MANY circumstances. RantWoman can think of several topics it would be entirely reasonable to ask and will be conveying specifics to local Friends. 

RantWoman definitely invites Friends to ASK, not just tell.

A less specific general question suitable for this blog would be "RantWoman, why won't you do what we ask / tell you to?" A short answer: RantWoman has both been trying to offer suggestions and making request. Neither has produced desired responses that RantWoman can tell. Perhaps if there were movement here, either others requests would not be needed in the first place or RantWoman might find it more in her Light to consider requests. RantWoman is meditating about whether to take initiative here about further detail or just to see what rises from the blog so far.

Furthermore, From RantWoman's perspective, RantWoman has been making reasonable accommodations requests for a VERY long time, ever since a series of DNA lotto medical events that kicked RantWoman's vision down from medium crappy to legally blind. Expelling RantWoman from membership, telling RantWoman she can only come to memorials, sending RantWoman off to separate and unequal worship she is not even allowed to advertise in Meeting channels is decidedly a weird way to respond!  Did RantWoman mention a lot of silencing, gaslighting, Grab the Blind Person and Bless them and drag them into traffic issues, probably some microaggressions even though RantWoman does not have a good mental list of what behaviors earn that term. 

Add to the whole list, ableism run rampant on a Care and Accountability Committee,  There also is a swiftly drafted set of guidelines drafted without RantWoman's presence that RantWoman is supposed to sign onto even if the guidelines involve things RantWoman cannot promise to be able to do. In other words, UFM really, really, really needs to be held in the Light and not just as it discerns about work on racial justice.

This blog references a Care and Accountability Committee, the word idiot, the word Pizza, and reference to new provision in NPYM Faith and Practice for "releasing from membership." The minute releasing RantWoman from membership delegates some interim decisionmaking to a number of individuals RantWoman has NO LEADING to address directly but would be willing to accept offers from others to carry specific asks on her behalf. At this point, RantWoman is clear to work with the provision in Faith and Practice for asking assistance from Quarterly Meeting Ministry and Counsel. RantWoman is also clear about many reasons to seek help in a specific outside channel and RantWoman is currently assembling documents needed to do that.

The exact moment that came up in worship:

RantWoman gave a message and used the words "we" and "us." There was stuff about hold in the Light while Light is having a hard time getting through because of Smoke.  RantWoman does not remember the rest of the message and therefore is curious what others remember. 

RantWoman does remember using the words we and us about a topic where RantWoman is VERY clear that there are two alternatives: shared discernment or "Unsafe at Any Speed" and unsafe in a way that RantWoman cannot in good conscience just walk away from. To make matters worse, RantWoman has a role outside Meeting that she cannot fulfill with integrity if she does not mind her Light about trying again.

Warning: bear with God language digressions

RantWoman is also clear: RantWoman has a versatile God who gets things done lots of ways. Here RantWoman honors another blind person from an earlier generation at UFM. Previous Generation Friend lost vision at about age 40. She went from work as an industrial physicist to work for the Department of Services for the Blind and was the family case manager for a family where the now-grown kids have strong presence as advocates. 

A sighted colleague also worshipped among us. He is remembered and loved for making xylophones and tactile maps by hand before there were so many electronic ways to get to tactile maps. Sighted colleague did a certain amount of looking after his colleague. She is remembered in both the blindness world and at UFM as "a no-nonsense person who could rub people the wrong way." In particular one of the people mentioned above remembers her for giving mediocre parenting advice that made a bad situation worse. RantWoman feels no need to atone for anyone else's past lapses, but does continue to harbor appreciation for thoughts that "that which does not kill you only makes you stronger." Also cue "Fathers and Sons" and mentoring or "Be patterns, be examples (bad examples?)" as themes.

And in other versatile God meditations, lately RantWoman has been hearing a lot of "Leaning on the Everlasting Arms" from people talking about a sense of Divine presence when people around them are, um, less than available let alone helpful. RantWoman is the kind of believer who can definitely work with that, at least long enough to wonder about everlasting arms and sweaty armpits. RantWoman is pretty sure New Last Name Friend and Great Cat Names Friend can follow RantWoman's language about God. Motivator Friend has come to Quakers because of activism; RantWoman has heard this Friend speak of their spiritual journey and RantWoman can tell there is definitely a journey there; so far the journey definitely does not include God language but does include experiences around prayer.

Racism?

Motivator Friend is the person who keeps making a public request to hold University Friends Meeting in the Light in relation to work on Racial Justice. It's a PUBLIC request. RantWoman after 28 years in Seattle and around the Meeting has light on the topic. There are many strands of thinking in the current political and cultural environment that are just freaking insane and dangerous. To the extent that Quaker ways have something  to contribute in times of insanity, RantWoman needs to be faithful to her Light and on an appropriate timeline. As RantWoman has written in other posts, sometimes around RantWoman, hold in the Light can be pretty fierce, probably a little too much inner blowtorch. 

RantWoman has several emails over many months from Motivator Friend where Motivator Friend makes some sweeping pronouncement  often either in academic language or full of principles without reference to data or lived experience or the history of some work in Seattle. Over several months RantWoman has written back talking about lived experience and asking about other principles. RantWoman has very little experience of any responses. So when Motivator Friend spoke in worship of distress and RantWoman suggested email, RantWoman was not surprised that the email offer was declined.

Motivator Friend has also been part of conversations that keep sounding to RantWoman like RantWoman is doing harm by existing. These conversations are not quite as gross as Crip Twitter dealing wiht people who think some categories of people should either just stay home or happily disappear if resources become too scarce, but they, um, severely challenge RantWoman's efforts to find that of God.... To say the least, RantWoman does NOT unite with perspective. RantWoman is sorry about causing pain, particularly since she does not intend to. However RantWoman has no clue what would stop pain, let alone whether what would stop pain is even something RantWoman can or should promise to do. 

Motivator Friend is part of the Ad-Hoc committee on Disabilities. The Ad-Hoc Committee on disabilities is the latest iteration of efforts to talk about Disability. An effort was made several years ago. The committee then called Oversight, or as RantWoman sometimes snarkily put it "Oops well" did a little report to Meeting for Business but left out A LOT of relevant topics. Meeting for Business, everyone except RantWoman went "clap clap clap" without further instructions. RantWoman wrote probably more than one email. RantWoman specifically remembers one offering a count of blind people in Meeting but RantWoman did not suggest anything clear to do next. RantWoman greatly appreciates the voice of one Friend on that committee at the time who has since acknowledged that there was a LOT that the previous committee did not look at. Can we say "continuing revelation?"

The Ad-Hoc Committee on Disability was born out of a Clearness committee the previous clerk decreed when RantWoman made multiple efforts to bring the creation of such a committee to Meeting for Business. The Ad-hoc Committee on Disability was created AFTER RantWoman was released from membership and in spite of a history of silencing and ableism, RantWoman is now expected to trust the work of this committee Motivator Friend and the other member of the committee besides the clerk refuse to participate in anything with  RantWoman present!

RantWoman recently came across an email she probably should have followed up sooner. Motivator Friend was sharing with someone else new to Meeting some minutes about RantWoman and in the same email severely gaslighting RantWoman about issues of physical safety, discounting RantWoman's experience, and again, not at least checking with RantWoman for her perspective.

Ask RantWoman? Not just silence and run over? What a novel idea.

RantWoman has been given a whole 15 minutes in Business Meeting. In exchange for 5 extra minutes, RantWoman got asked again on short notice about signing onto the guidelines mentioned above. NO! RantWoman WILL NOT sign onto guidelines she cannot promise to do.


Basically, RantWoman is trying to express gratitude for  things that worked, for some forms of Quaker service that helped RantWoman a great deal when she was trying to figure out what she could still do, what new skills would be most helpful, and many other ins and outs of vocational rehabilitation. Quaker service has wound up feeding life outside Meeting, particularly matters to do with transportation. At some point before the midlife DNA lotto events, RantWoman was recovering from an injury, doing physical therapy while watching county council hearings on public access cable. RantWoman realized she was spending all her time thinking about transportation anyway and maybe she should just volunteer for public engagement. RantWoman considers herself lucky: RantWoman has previously done programming  / report writing jobs. Transportation wound up being a way to stay engaged even though RantWoman wound up deciding that trying to go back to writing code was going to be too much.

Now, with a light rail station set to open in less than a year near UFM, with a brain full of many strands of multi-modal transportation lingo, RantWoman has many reasons to travel in the neighborhood and many concerns about policing, equity, stewardship. RantWoman has been quoted a dollar value for what her time as technical assistance or other categories of work is worth. RantWoman considers time she is willing to spend on this topic an in-kind contribution to the life of the community and RantWoman is called to continue to be faithful to that Light, to many topics needing discernment, and to many stresses on the horizon.

Now back to "us," "we," or you

Holy Cow! RantWoman realizes that the tone of this post sounds way too much like the only time she ever heard the Righteous Reverend Rant Granddad preach.  Considering that the family DNA lotto runs in that side of the family, perhaps readers can just bear with the problem for the moment.

RantWoman has painted a fierce and horrid picture of many things no one should want to be a part of, so yeah, if someone wants to zero in on the words "we" and "us" and doesn't want to include RantWoman, go for it! Have fun. Enjoy yourselves. 

On the other hand, if Friends can listen and acknowledge and think about how to get to a better future, "we" and "us" should mean something entirely different.

In Light and Faithfulness.

RantWoman

Sunday, September 13, 2020

Data Various Flavors; Ouch statements and promises of juicy details.

Smoke

 First some #SeattleSmoke observational data in the form of today's photo of the day from RantWoman's balcony. 

Smoke shot of the day 
The view S from RantWoman's balcony


Standing Reasonable Accommodations request

RantWoman has had a standing reasonable accommodations request for at least 15 years. The request has been something like "I do not know what will work, so we need to keep trying." RantWoman would say this has been a BUMPY ride, and RantWoman has plenty of additional detail but will do the flyover here. 

Concisely, Meeting has been unevenly willing to accept RantWoman's offers and suggestions about what would help; Meeting has also frequently specifically refused to do things RantWoman considers reasonable accommodations. In other cases, completely inappropriate "help" has been offered or unreasonable requests have been made. RantWoman will elaborate separately because she hopes at the end of this post to arrive, without TOO many digressions at a blunt observation about ONE recent really glaring ouch statement and some commentary that needs to go with a specific email thread!
 

The ListServe and Reply/all

Next, some data and commentary about email. Yes. Email. Email from people who clearly do not unite with ...

Email that indicates, HORRORS, that people have been using that horrid dreadful Reply/all command on a community listserve. RantWoman offers two perspectives. 

The result is about what one can expect. Interesting text items intertwined and entangled so one is not sure what exactly is supposed to come of the exchange. The text items are valuable. There is not, mercifully, additional commentary and the new texts contribute to a larger conversation. The result is definitely kind of a mess, the kind of mess RantWoman does not want to see too often but is VERY happy to tolerate sometimes. 

Second, RantWoman is VERY grateful that community practice if not actual guidelines have evolved. RantWoman raises the question: do the guidelines need to evolve at least a little? RantWoman would definitely be down with evolution from "RantWoman is the only one who cares so instead of asking RantWoman to elaborate on her point of view, let's just steamroll her, make rules, send three supposedly weighty Friends over RIGHT NOW to elder her for violating The Rules. Come over RIGHT NOW did not include even the SLIGHTEST interest in where people were demanding invitation to and we will not even go near one of those Friends' perpetual self-important difficulties with the space-time continuum, at least as far as anyone else's time.  

This  exercise was THREE years ago. RantWoman does NOT apologize for still being steamed, but is not the least bit distressed to bypass such visitations for the present circumstances. RantWoman still wishes this were not the only data to add to her Unsafe at Any Speed list, about which more to come. And by "Unsafe At Any Speed, RantWoman also means "cannot ethically just walk away from."

Unsafe at Any Speed? "oh everyone is doing the best we can and the community really is not ready to try more?" Not if no one asks them! RantWoman is called to be faithful to her Light on several grounds, not all of them Quaker. RantWoman would SO MUCH rather have a list of "here's what's wrong. Here is how we can all do better in the future."  But instead she has a years old stream of emails from the now-clerk basically of the "I don' wanna..." form. Yeah, we know you don' wanna. But what does God require of you?


Ouch Statements. Ouch Statements.

Yep. RantWoman promised ouch statements. The email in the Reply/All thread is an exchange between two Friends younger than RantWoman. RantWoman appreciates that one Friend introduced the concept of Ouch statements. Oops / Ouch / Snap is a set of language used among many activists RantWoman knows. Oops, I realize I said something wrong, committed a microaggression, ... Ouch is You did something that hurt me.Snap is "nicely worded." 

Unfortunately, the concept of Ouch statements came in a sentence that RantWoman experienced as a serious sharp-edged  Ouch directed at the other person. RantWoman will express her observation in specific terms to the parties involved, but RantWoman finds herself VERY relieved to recognize: that Friend is just really good at Ouch statements, and RantWoman needs to labor carefully about her concerns but definitely does not need to take the ouch statement issue personally. Eureka!

Actual substance.

The target of the ouch statement posted an extremely helpful piece related to the Friend's work. RantWoman thinks the Friends work offers rich ground for further discussion and hopes to formulate a clean comment about substance freed of the bramble here.

In Light and Faithfulness.

RantWoman

Thursday, September 10, 2020

Bystander Intervention Training: DISABILITY???

The announcement in original form

 AFSC BYSTANDER INTERVENTION TRAINING SEPT 24, 2020

Tacoma Friends Meeting has made arrangements with American Friends Service Committee for bystander intervention training on Sept. 24, 3:30-5 pm, via Zoom. This event is open to everyone and there is no fee for the training, but participants must Register Here  to receive a Zoom invitation two days prior to the session. Space is limited, so early sign-up is encouraged. Now more than ever it is important that we not just be bystanders, but that we be prepared to witness and assist if needed. In bystander intervention training, we learn how to intervene in public instances of racist, sexist, and other forms of interpersonal violence and harassment -- learning both what to do and what not to do. The training session will be led by Lucy Duncan, AFSC's Director for Friends Relations and an experienced trainer & online course instructor. This opportunity has been arranged by Tacoma Friends and is co-sponsored by Associated Ministries, an interfaith nonprofit organization in Tacoma. Questions? Contact Chris Ferguson (Tacoma Friends) at cdf@plu.edu or Sandy Windley (Associated Ministries) at sandyw@associatedministries.org


This is a great training. RantWoman had a chance to attend it at the 2019 NPYM Annual Session. RantWoman is also really excited for the opportunity to participate with members of other faith communities. And RantWoman is seasoning matters to do with disability.

RantWoman humbly acknowledges both her own capacity to be a serious problem child and a need to work also with disability and ableism.


The first thing RantWoman would do:
Now more than ever it is important that we not just be bystanders, but that we be prepared to witness and assist if needed. In bystander intervention training, we learn how to intervene in public instances of racist, sexist,  ABLEIST and other forms of interpersonal violence and harassment -- learning both what to do and what not to do. The training session will be led by Lucy Duncan, ...
[RantWoman mentions ableism specifically because RantWoman knows other blind people who have been subjected to creepy disability-related harassment on the street and worse than average.]


The next thing RantWoman would do: explicitly invite participants to make any access needs known. Some people will be comfortable contacting event organizers. Some will not. 

RantWoman ALWAYS has to think about accessibility for events. In this case RantWoman's main issues will be  some meeting process / visual cues points and the inaccessibility to screen reader users of things shared in Zoom chat and the practices RantWoman finds most helpful. In this case, Bystander Intervention Materials
provide plenty of resources. Others attending might also find it helpful to post links in the chat.

Next RantWoman will humbly note that when RantWoman attended this workshop previously, RantWoman spent a chunk of time after almost every topic raised by the presenter mumbling to herself something like "...or a person with a disability..." or "Could be a person with a disability." 

RantWoman realizes this behavior is obnoxious. One of the more steadfast disability and housign justice advocates in RantWoman's life outside Meeting has to be discouraged all the time from doing exactly what RantWoman was doing. (Advocate's capacity for doing this arises in part from an astounding list of medical issues and in part from missteps by her family's childhood Services for the Blind case manager, who happened to be a Quaker ) Anyway, RantWoman mid workshop realized she probably just needed to STOP IT.

In the workshop, an interesting thing happened: a volunteer was needed to play the role of someone just bothering people on the street. RantWoman does not remember the exact scenario. RantWoman does remember that the person who volunteered to be the harasser immediately began behaviors that for RantWoman registered as indicators of some kind of cognitive or mental health disability. The person who volunteered to intervene was successful about whatever the task was whether ending the behavior or just getting past the situation on the sidewalk, This volunteer also accomplished what was needed without a hint of ableism that RantWoman could detect. After the roleplay, at least one person commenting did pick up the disability issue. After the workshop, the person who volunteered to play the role of the harasser sheepishly said they would have no idea how to be a real harasser, but RantWoman thought the Friend was perfect as they played the part. 

RantWoman realizes it would be good just to take her questions and comments to the event organizers. However, RantWoman gets tired of needing to say the same things over and over and hopes to be able to recycle a good bit of what is here.

But now, on your mark, get set, Zoom

Monday, September 7, 2020

Racial Justice Minute Holding in the Light

 A young Friend made a public request to hold discussion at an upcoming Meeting for Business Meeting in the Light. RantWoman thanks that young Friend for the public invitation. RantWoman deeply appreciates community energy around the topic identified below. 

RantWoman also notes her own participation in a recent virtual conversation convened by Western Friend. Friends from many Meetings in the western US participated in the conversation with worship sharing among other things about how Friends might witness with integrity in the current environment. There was attention both to the reality that people tend to seek out Quakers at times like these and that, paraphrasing and collapsing several comments, nurturing the Light of younger people is most definitely called for. Plus the topic to be discussed greatly exercises RantWoman but RantWoman's plate is full.Rantwoman would be grateful just to know good discussion is going on. Having a good discussion could set an important example that can ripple far beyond the UFM community. 

RantWoman would also particularly like to have information allowing her to address two concerns.

--From time to time when RantWoman goes about in her community, someone asks "where are the Quakers?" Right now, every time RantWoman hears that question she has to pray that her Excessively Plain English to Quakerese filter does not just melt down. So RantWoman would very much like to see something from the Hold it In the Light request move forward. RantWoman is also very clear that what she would be ready to move forward is very different from drafts so far.

--Seattle is not by any means the riot-infested dystopia that media images imply but there are serious matters that need attention. And there is a pandemic. And RantWoman really does not care whether others want to see her or even want to talk about what healing might look like. "I don' wanna" is not a reasonable basis for community and the opportunity to see familiar faces is really precious to RantWoman. RantWoman keeps suggesting specific steps that she thinks would be doable. Enough said? RantWoman will say it again elsewhere.

RantWoman also appreciates introduction of the Oops Ouch Snap language in an electronic conversation. There are some serious ouches going on and RantWoman continues to honor a call to be faithful to her Light. The ouches get a separate email.

Hold in Which Light? 

Despite or maybe partly because of seriously wonky eyeballs, RantWoman has a lingering fascination with Arc Welding, glass blowing, and things to do with lasers, holography, and "Fire photon torpedoes." So RantWoman needs to ask readers to be patient with the risk that inner Light will come out as Inner Blowtorch. RantWoman will do the best she can not to singe anyone or anything. RantWoman has also given herself the option of writing two versions of this post, one that is HOPEFULLY concise and on-point and one that digresses in the direction of every thing RantWoman is peeved about in connection with what she writes. Please hold RantWoman's keyboard in the Light with particular prayers that thoughts occurring in Excessively Plain English make it through the translation to Quakerese filter.

The Hold in the Light request set RantWoman's Inner Blowtorch blazing and this post is an effort to heed that call, hopefully without singeing anyone. This post includes RantWoman reflections on some history in Seattle, some blunt accessibility points, commentary about the content of the proposal, and suggestions about process. The post is likely to be imperfectly edited, but readers are encouraged to consider which category different paragraphs fit into.

The Hold in the Light request came as part of the same Zoom event where someone expressed concern about public outrage over the Rochester NY police killing man suffocated while placed naked in a "spit hood." The man was naked in cold weather and later found to be high on PCP. RantWoman's Crip Twitter streams are full of accounts of routine use of such hoods in many situations involving mental health issues or drugs. RantWoman has been completely unsurprised to hear the local Rochester police officers' union say the officers were following their training. In the Zoom event, RantWoman noted that being suffocated while high is generally monstrous; in Seattle in at least one police shooting, after one of the reviewing bodies reported that officers were acting according to their training, but the training was changed. RantWoman will come back to this factoid further down.

Is UFM called to create an ad-hoc committee about abolishing the police. 

RantWoman has seen other invitations to ask questions and RantWoman will season whether to email this link to those inviting questions. RantWoman moderates comments and specifically offers the comment space as a place where Friends might essentially compare notes about what is most on their minds.. Sometimes RantWoman appreciates that one on one conversations lead someone to change their minds or to adjust something before the next conversation. Sometimes RantWoman likes the sense of shared discernment from many readers and a sense of which points on her mind most resonate with others. . In this case, RantWoman is extremely grateful that questions got posted to the whole listserve and that enough people talk of Meeting life to RantWoman for RantWoman to need to heed a call to speak.  RantWoman is also aware of many paths to total overwhelm in the internet age AND RantWoman would be too happy to go on about silencing and the listserve. This post though is not the place for "A whole bunch of things really suck. How can things be better going forward?"

And RantWoman needs to be faithful to a call to deliver what is on her heart, despite rather blunt calls from some directions not to deliver anything at all. Reflecting, RantWoman is humble about an observation: some of the don't deliver anything at all calls come Friends RantWoman met with for a time several years ago. RantWoman apologizes: she should at the time have just said "this conversation needs more people than the three of you." RantWoman is VERY grateful there are more people in the picture now; RantWoman also very much hopes more people in the picture can help share some burdens. RantWoman will be faithful to her call and leave what happens after to god and further discernment.

RantWoman has seen the proposal documents distributed last month. RantWoman takes issue with the current fashion around this Meeting of treating minutes as top-secret until two days before the next business meeting BECAUSE RantWoman prefers to think over what is in minutes and whether minutes reflect what RantWoman understands and remembers. RantWoman notes an email exchange about written responses to questions that have come in. RantWoman would probably prefer to have more than two days to reflect on the comments there.  RantWoman gets to take all the issue she wants, but in the absence of commentary to root around in, RantWoman's inner blowtorch can find plenty to say in connection with the documents and the proposal. 


Here follow questions interspersed with various commentary:

Why ARE we doing this, seasoning this minute?

--Virtue Signalling? There is a whole lot of painting "Black Lives Matter" everywhere. The impulse to do more is laudable.

--Efforts to live out our testimonies? Which ones? How do the proposed steps speak to those testimonies? Wait, what steps exactly are being proposed?

--How  does action on this minute enrich the WORSHIP life of our community?

--The minute calls for government entities to take certain actions. Will the proposed committee provide any kind of support for Friends let to sit in city council meetings, follow financial / governmental budget concerns in the media, and speak as led?

--How does action on this minute provide Friends support for conversations they might have at work, the gym, the store...?

--How will seasoning this minute increase our ability to engage societal stress and  profound cries for reform?

--Are we ready to go where we are led including frankly addressing our own privilege and ableism?

--Do we really gotta abolish the police? Is that really what people across the entire population want? What about people called to work in different ways to address injustice in our society? What about people who worship with us whose jobs require that they talk regularly to cops? What about persuading others to join our efforts?

--What about domestic violence serial rapists people working with alternatives to violence who hear people formerly incarcerated talk about how much they needed help to stop what they were doing?


ANOTHER Ad-hoc Committee??? 

There is already an ad-hoc committee about disability. Should we really add another one"? 

--SO, we've solved Ableism? We know everything we need to about accessible meetings, alternate formats, technological and physical accessibility, access for people with different access needs to the same info? We know everything we need to know and everything is perfect just in time to tackle the point that people with disabilities are overrepresented in jails and prisons. OF course we want to use resources better for services and support, but we don't need no stinking committee anymore? RantWoman tartly notes that, aside from the LONG tenure of her own efforts to talk about disability, the charge of the AdHoc Disabilities committee was to run for a year from December 2019. That charge absolutely needs to be renewed.

--Cue the Johnny Cash video "Children go where I send thee." RantWoman thinks another ad-hoc committee might be just fine. RantWoman is VERY clear, though about the importance of the next questions.


Okay the committee is going to work. What principles does it propose as far as planning accessible events and activities?

--What principles will the proposed ad-hoc committee observe about availability of content in formats accessible for people with different needs ranging from compatibility with specific tools to Paper? This includes social media, materials for reading groups, handouts at public events, videos. The proposal includes a list of suggested readings. RantWoman has pretty much the same content issues she has with this list as she had with the resources at the bottom of the Disabilities survey. The reading list is the same topical and process frenzy However, in previous commentary RantWoman completely neglected to mention the multiple formats issue. As partial remedy, a link to a video and transcript just to get things started.

--What other steps might be taken to ensure planned events are accessible and inclusive? 

--One of RantWoman's online personae Sarah Bridgesong feels no obligation to wait around for an invitation to visit the electronic right of way near the Meeting for Business. RantWoman is trying to persuade Sarah B that it is fine to see what teamwork delivers, but SB is not very patient about people doing things they think are heroic without listening to what matters most for RantWoman and then completely missing really critical simple points. RantWoman also has too much experience with critical details getting muddled out of minutes and group reportbacks and specifications for different kinds of work.RantWoman does want to move the minute discussion forward and does not want to soak up all the Business Meeting time with kerfuffle RantWoman will digress further in a separate post.

Do UFM Friends feel any call to review Friends connections to the evolution of local police accountability measures aAlternatives to Violence / the Criminal Justice Working Group of Quaker Voice / police reform by FCNL?


Do UFM Friends need to reflect on moments such as the #BlockTheBunker campaign and the #NoNewYouthJail campaign? Hint: RantWoman herself was not able to move as fast as would have been desirable and would love it if there were voices in Meeting able to help identify needed work going forward?

What does UFM need to do to include the voices of BIPOC directly in our discernment as we season action?

Are there things UFM needs to "get right with the Lord" about within our own community before we go out trying to fix the world? (Yep!)

How can we support and care for each other as we undertake this work?

Would UFM Friends like to compare notes with other Seattle Friends? RantWoman has had the honor of attending meeting for Business for both Salmon Bay and South Seattle Meetings? RantWoman has been impressed by a number of things. Both Meetings worked with the NPYM minute on ending racism. Both Meetings are clear they want to commit to specific actions and not just write pretty words. Both meetings generated clear minutes of action and are acting on their intentions. Both Meetings also included clear statements about engaging beyond the boundaries of their Meeting with community or neighborhood or other faith communities. RantWoman thinks there might be something in this history for asking whether Friends from other Meetings might also be called to witness about police accountability and police reform. Here RantWoman specifically wants to acknowledge the Light and leading of a Friend who used to be part of UFM.  
    At the time this Friend started attending South Seattle Friends, UFM including RantWoman really had no capacity to help nurture the Friend's leading to work on racial justice. RantWoman deeply appreciates how Friends from South Seattle and from the FGC ministry on racism have helped support and nurture this specific Friend's work. RantWoman thinks that police reform / abolition is important to talk about and that Friends may more simply be called to work for racial justice in ways that develop societal growth to minimize need for police..

WTO

Please bear with RantWoman's need to dodder on about events from the past and fairly blunt suggestions for the future.

In the hoary mists of last century when RantWoman was clerk of Peace and social concerns and recently when season the minute about starving orcas and public transportation, this kind of social justice minute had three basic parts, some background information, a clear statement to make to the world, and a what UFM commits to do which often included publicize the action in different ways and less often includes specific steps UFM will do. 

RantWoman also specifically notes that the final minute that Business Meeting approved about WTO was VERY different from the version presented by Peace and Social Concerns three months earlier.

The minute proposed for the upcoming Meeting for Business has background info, suggested resources, and a nice words statement those presenting the minute want to make to the world do. RantWoman inquires:

--What REALLY needs to be in background info and a resource list. A set of committee charges might include develop and expand or refer people to good resource list.

--If the goal is to create a committee, why even have a statement to the world yet? RantWoman is certainly not ready to make the statement proposed and RantWoman cannot imagine others are at unity either. But RantWoman believes a lot can be accomplished by simply having a process to engage about some of RantWoman's many questions above.

No one has particularly asked RantWoman for suggestions, but RantWoman will heed the call to ffer anyway: what RantWoman would do:

--In the upcoming Meeting for Business Thresh the feedback so far. Are there points the proposed committee needs to know more about?

--Consider whether to bring a draft minute creating the committee and a proposed workplan to this month's Meeting for Business or to work a month and then bring the minute and a proposed roster to be sent to Nominating Committee.
--If a revised minute is to be brought also offer a proposed resource list and invite Friends to offer suggestions or to speak about parts of their personal work the committee might help nurture.


Just by way of adding to a resources list, 

What do Friends notice from the tape?
 
In LIght and Faithfulness

RantWoman

Sunday, September 6, 2020

Earworm Audition: हनुमान चालीसा | Hanuman Chalisa Full | Shekhar Ravjiani | Video Song & L...

RantWoman apparently does much better if she adopts / embraces earworms. Tonight RantWoman decided to look up the Hanuman Chalisa, a Hindu hymn. RantWoman means the music, not the story. As RantWoman remembers from looking awhile ago the story is about something to do with finding one's better self and overcoming monkey brain. RantWoman should check but that is not going to happen tonight without RantWoman falling asleep mid audio.

RantWoman frankly sometimes is all about "I need what looks like monkey brain to other people. I need it because ... travel... because..." But RantWoman really digs the music and this version is especially contemplative. RantWoman barely watched the video and has no opinion about the visuals she observed.

Now let us enjoy the music

Saturday, September 5, 2020

On your Mark, Set, ZOOM--on a survey

RantWoman needs the Quaker universe to please hold in the Light "Oh, I hope it's accessible Friend." and the saga of SignUp Genius. RantWoman specifically wants to talk about problems, not individual people. This is hard when the same individual people keep having the same problems over and over. Hopefully, this blog post will help comb out enough knots among the threads that MAYBE meaningful conversation and even followup can occur. Hopefully.

This post is about Zoom, and accessibility, and asking the right questions on a survey, and providing enough room in the open-ended text block for a complete answer. And NOT EXCLUDING AN Accessibility tools SUBJECT MATTER EXPERT from helping formulate the questions and interpret the responses!

RantWoman has not completed the entire Disability Committee Survey. RantWoman keeps looking at one section after another and having "my head is going to explode" moments. After "My head is going to explode," RantWoman's next thought tends to be something like "I could write a blog post about every single section and sometimes every single question within a section." RantWoman is QUITE familiar with this problem. It occurs almost anytime RantWoman is handed a survey. SOME of the time RantWoman can chill out and see what emerges from presenting data in small increments. Some of the time, uhhh....

Bear in mind that the Ad-hoc Committee on Disabilities right now consists of one brave Friend who seems to get "Nothing about us without us," one Friend who consistently defines problems differently than RantWoman, consistently misses 1/2 - 2/3 of what RantWoman considers important in some conversations,, one Friend who is utterly failing to deliver on a promise to be able and willing to dialogue about theological diversity, gaslights RantWoman about physical safety issues in email. The PERFECT team, and so highly functional? RantWoman is also holding in the Light 4 Friends who have dipped toes into the committee work and found something, hopefully besides RantWoman's charming personality, too daunting to fit into their schedules.

But let us begin with the section of the survey about Zoom. This section got added after RantWoman was no longer allowed to have anything to do with the survey. RantWoman wishes there were different data to collect about the process. RantWoman also DOES NOT APOLOGIZE for posting her concerns to her blog, asking the whole Quaker universe to hold the issues in the Light and not immediately exhausting herself with further one-on-one labor with individuals.

Software Accessibility? Anyone? Software accessibility? Shouldn't there be SOME kind of question about software accessibility and use of accessibility tools or accessibility measures? RantWoman means, um, remember that bit about SignUp Genius and "Oh I hope it's accessible" AFTER the tool had already been chosen? Remember that RantWoman wrote about FOUR blog posts on her non-Quaker blog about small non-profits and minimal due diligence when selecting a tool especially when there is at least one blind person known to be in the picture. (There are other blind people, actually, but they are, um, considerably more subdued and also entangled in fewer threads of Meting life than RantWoman. Remember, or maybe not an unfortunate visit to Coordinating Committee where RantWoman tried to outline simple fast things people can do to see whether developers of tools have thought about accessibility? 

After complete jumble emerged in the coordinating committee minutes, RantWoman realized she she should check whether people had any idea what RantWoman was talking about. No. That was part of the problem. In fact, RantWoman is pretty sure the Recording Clerk being unfamiliar with key concepts has been a problem over several different recording clerks; that is a whole separate thread.

But why is RantWoman bringing this up now? 

Because Zoom is software! RantWoman has the same accessibility issues and the same tools and skills whether she is in the workplace, in her many "will work for sandwiches" policy related volunteer gigs, and when striving for Spirit-led presence around Quakers or otherwise. 

Because RantWoman needs accessibility features ALL THE FREAKING TIME, not just when someone remembers or it is convenient

Because RantWoman should not be assumed to be the only person who might be using accessibility tools
     
Because, just think opportunity to live a single-standard of Truth, simplicity, harmony in the universe.

Digression: also a quote from "I hope it's accessible" Friend.
No RantWoman, we did not release you from membership because you are blind. We released you because (.among other things you kept trying to talk to us in email I just deleted....)

Besides accessibility issues and use of accessibility tools, RantWoman also needs to comment on the use of chat--and RantWoman needs to comment in considerable detail.

RantWoman mentions this because recently she was completing a survey about accessibility needs to participate in a set of public meetings. There was one question asking about several accessibility measures in video conferencing systems. RantWoman started out with a response that had 67 words. Then there was an edit and a 93 word count. Then RantWoman submitted an answer of 131 words. And every single one of those words is important TO RANTWOMAN and RantWoman really, really, really does not #$#*$$# care whether she is the only person in the room they are important to. Furthermore, there are MORE words RantWoman could add!

Here is the answer RantWoman submitted in the text block after Other in a list of items that seem reasonable and important for others who might also be in a meeting:

"Virtual meeting chats can be very valuable places to share resources. But too much chatter in the chat can be very difficult for screen reader users. In my experience unless I mute notifications, the screen reader will read chat items as soon as they come in and that gets in the way of the rest of the audio or distracts me if it happens while I am speaking. I never like disabling chat because I really appreciate being able to exchange contact info and other resources with other participants but definitely some discipline about public messages Project? (commenting on a part of the question)  Do you mean screen share? I only know of one tool browser combination where screen share is accessible to screen reader users. If advance distribution does not happen, files can be pasted into the chat to download.

RantWoman has mixed feelings about private chat and sometimes even public information. It is really nice to convey information immediately but sometimes it distracts attention in a less than desirable way.


(RantWoman could edit this and be more clear. Tough. It's a survey response. For RantWoman it's like an elevator pitch. RantWoman gets to say some version of it ALL THE TIME.

Aside from screen share, one aspect of online meetings RantWoman finds awkward is departing. In all the transportation related "public engagement " RantWoman goes to, RantWoman usually likes to say something like Thanks All, Bye. RantWoman goes to one event where one person likes to say Goodbye to every single person who leaves. RantWoman totally wants to honor the human warmth behind this gesture--and it drives RantWoman CRAZY. 

The problem is RantWoman thinks that besides spiritual enrichment, if one's faith community doesn't drive one CRAZY some of the time, it is probably not doing its job in terms of opportunities for spiritual growth! God is NOT all about consent. No one consents to earthquakes, the corona virus, or DNA lotto. And video conferencing offers whole vast new vistas of pathways to the beloved community!

Peace. Love. Light Faithfulness--and screen shots, though that is another post.

Sincerely, RantWoman