RantWoman is reflecting on the work of collecting the history of our Meeting's walk with The Safest Sex Offender on the Planet. Today RantWoman is meditating about two themes.
--Instant Support Group. Add Water and Stir. RantWoman is helping review some history which indeed speaks to the following point RantWoman previously wandered past in http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2012/09/evolution-draftily.html
Survivors of sexual abuse working to support each other spiritually [does anyone besides RantWoman wonder about the expectations inherent in this categorization?] may meet in the Quaker House living room on 2nd and 4th Sundays following the rise of 11:00 meeting. To confirm the schedule, call [Friend willing to have her phone number listed for this purpose.]. She, and possibly others, can meet to hear concerns, share experience, or help discern what meeting actions or resources might address survivors' needs.
RantWoman expects that this paragraph may soon evolve. RantWoman notes that history includes a number of people restimulated by different things to do with the Safest Sex Offender on the Planet. RantWoman has been wondering about community expectations that these people would instantly form a mutual support group even if the individuals have really different needs and concerns. RantWoman is holding history tenderly and upholding more discernment. Enough said for now.
When is t0? Please excuse the numbers geek terminology. Do we date this walk from:
--The date the future Safest Sex Offender first walked through our door?
--The date the Future Safest Sex Offender... announced his situation to RantWoman?
Should we consider alternative candidates for t0 such as the date Friends from Meeting first organized Alternatives to Violence workshops in WA prisons? Or the organization of the Monroe Worship Group Or the first time RantWoman attended some kind of event where trauma recovery issues were handled with love and sensitivity. Here is what RantWoman wrote in an email with additions about ways the ground was already well-tilled in her Meeting when the future Safest Sex Offender on the Planet first spoke to RantWoman
--Consistent welcoming of people's different ways of talking about their spiritual lives in general including the Divine in general, forgiveness, reconciliation, other forms of revelation such as trauma recovery.
--People astute enough when someone was dealing with some kind of trauma recovery during different random worship sharing or other activities to recognize the problem and sit with the Friend
--A recognition in some of the same events that one could name someone as an abusive jerk and still love them.
--REALLY blunt clarity riding back and forth to the Monroe worship group with someone who worked for the Department of Corrections, Conflict is a Gift of God Friend and another Weighty Friend. These Friends were VERY precise in their opinions about which of the guys in the worship group and in AVP in general they felt had done their work and would be a productive citizen on the outside and a few cases where they saw some clear NO, the limits of redemption.
--LOTS and LOTS of adults modeling efforts to deal with conflicts openly and respectfully. Okay, RantWoman achieves this VERY unevenly. In fact, RantWoman has been known to say she is not a Quaker because of being any good at this peace and love stuff; she is a Quaker because she needs all the help she can get. But respectful efforts to address conflict do exist in RantWoman's brain as something to keep striving for!
RantWoman would not mind in the least if "Add Water and Stir" were a viable pathway.