1. RantWoman made printed copies in large print. This will work better for RantWoman and probably for others around her than high-speed chatter splattering out of one of RantWoman's devices all over rooms because RantWoman hates headphones.
2. As long as RantWoman was fussing in Word, RantWoamn also decided to add headings and then experiment to see what Mr. JAWS finds in Word and when RantWoman makes an HTML file for pasting into the blog. Preview says what RantWoman has done will work.
3. As long as RantWoman was "fixing" some technological things, RantWoman OF COURSE was also called to enhance the content.
4. RantWoman actually found the need to add headings to the longer document helpful: in the process of figuring out where RantWoman would find it helpful to have headings, RantWoman actually got more of the document read than she might on the fly in an interest group.
*Nurturing the Light in each other*
As Quakers, we strive to recognize and uplift “that of God” in ourselves and in one another. In addition, continuing revelation is central to our community. We are all in the process of learning how to support one another’s Inner Guide, as we each change and grow, too.
In that spirit, the Quarterly Meeting planning committee from University Friends Meeting wishes to offer several guidelines and reminders for this weekend:
*1. **Ask before touching someone. *
Create a culture of consent by asking for permission to hug someone, touch their shoulder, etc., and by allowing the person space to say “no” without guilt. People may decline touch for any number of reasons, and nobody owes anyone an explanation for saying “no.”
Ableism warning: if someone looks like they need help, ask whether help is needed ; if yes then provide the help requested. If the offer is declined, respect the person’s choice about how to do things.
“grab the blind person and bless them.”
Are there other sensory, disability or touch-specific points Friends might wish to share?
*2. **Respect people’s pronouns and bathroom choices. *
Over a year ago our Yearly Meeting approved a Minute of Inclusion that reads, in part:
“We recognize that when we embrace the Light within the full spectrum of gender identities in our meeting, our worship deepens and our community is enriched. As part of our evolving struggle to live our testimony of equality, North Pacific Yearly Meeting minutes our commitment to becoming and affirming, safe, and nurturing place for everyone to live fully that which the Spirit is leading them to be. We extend our loving care to people of all genders... We will continue to educate ourselves and our communities and take appropriate action to bring about a more equal world.”
There are many ways to support trans and gender non-conforming people: one way that we can do this is by honoring people’s preferred pronouns (e.g. “she/her/hers,” or “he/him/his,” or “they/them/theirs,” or “zie/hir/hirs”). Please consider including your pronouns on your name tag, and correcting yourself and others when you notice someone being referred to with the wrong pronouns. It is not the end of the world to make mistakes, and we all do it occasionally; it’s usually best to offer a quick apology and move on with the conversation.
Men’s and women’s bathrooms can be physically and socially dangerous (and therefore anxiety-provoking) for trans and gender non-conforming folks. If you are using a bathroom with someone who doesn’t seem to be in the “right” place, please keep your thoughts to yourself. Everyone deserves to pee or shower in peace.
Please bear with the possibility that some Friends, especially Friends who have studied more than one language or lived in more than one culture regard the subject of pronouns as an essay question.
If you really cannot bear sharing a bathroom with someone for any reason please consider finding another restroom or visiting at a different time.
Is anyone besides RantWoman interested in conversation / discernment / meeting for worship with attention to howling about how bad bathroom design is bad many ways?
*3. **Take care of yourself. *
The concepts of white supremacy, justice, and punishment have deep historical roots and intense personal and spiritual implications. We will likely have disagreements and difficult conversations. Pay attention to the difference between discomfort and danger. You are strongly encouraged to maintain boundaries that keep you safe, while also leaving yourself room to grow and learn. Please do your best to respect others’ boundaries as well.
If mentioning God or colliding with the phrase “What does God require of you?” or any other language for someone’s spiritual and worship experience is going to distress you, please consider yourself held in the Light. Please also realize that the problematic language is not necessarily just going to disappear.
What language do we personally use for difficult situations?
What helps us hear that of God in others?