Honest questions round 2

RantWoman writes here after a phone conversation about the guidelines for the UFM Email list. RantWoman does not know what to do with the information she heard as “you were the only one who objected so we did not care about your objections.”

 

RantWoman guesses she is supposed to be grateful to have that information now, but RantWoman has decided to post to her blog in her own words because she does not feel like relying on any single voice to filter / convey what is bothering her and come to a better formulation and because the whole topic needs to be held in the Light so that progress can perhaps be made.

 

RantWoman has been off the email list for awhile and RantWoman is finding herself feeling peeved, resentful on numerous grounds and bullied. RantWoman initially promised to suggest SMALL edits. RantWoman WAS hoping that small edits would do the trick. RantWoman needs greater light than small edits but cutting down the number of ways RantWoman feels bullied could improve MANY things.

 

 

UFM Email List Guidelines.pdf

UFM Email List Guidelines

November, 2016

University Friends Meeting

Email List Guidelines

By posting to UniversityFriendsMeeting@googlegroups.com, you are agreeing to follow these guidelines:

1. Announcements ONLY

The email list is for announcements that are relevant to the UFM community. For  example: activities sponsored by UFM committees or other Quaker organizations;  joys or concerns of members and attenders (this could include personal needs, such  as looking for/offering employment, rides, etc); and other events groups, activities, or events that are consistent with our Quaker testimonies.

This is not a forum for discussion. It is, however, appropriate to share an item or  topic that you would like Friends to discuss and indicate how those interested in  doing so can continue the discussion (i.e. by emailing you directly or gathering after  the rise of meeting).

 

2. No “Reply All”

Unless you have a vital clarification or addition to make to the original announcement, reply only to the individual sending the announcement, not the entire email list.

RantWoman would like to suggest:

Please use Reply/all VERY judiciously, only for vital clarifications or additions to a post, or for matters of community interest such as shared memories of someone who has passed away or updates about someone’s situation.

RantWoman is on the email list for another Meeting. RantWoman particularly appreciates reply/all when the email thread is shared remembrances about someone who has died or is going through some kind of medical event.  Sometimes the memories themselves and the network of people remembering someone are very meaningful to RantWoman even if the memories and connections date from long before there was any such thing as Google groups.

RantWoman has also found helpful threads about where people are meeting for events such as marches. Here RantWoman appreciates the point that one set of posts generated a response that addressed some of RantWoman’s concerns for that instance but not in general.

 

3. No Forwarding Announcements from this list without Approval

Please forward an announcement only with the approval of the person or group that sent it to you. It is best to remove the names and email addresses from the original announcement, unless you know that the sender intends otherwise.

RantWoman GREATLY appreciates even the limited info about community life she is receiving from the person who has been ignoring this rule. RantWoman’s appreciation is why she is clear to try again about refining guidelines and rejoining the list.RantWoman is also seeking to rejoin the list under her own name even though other options have also occurred to her.

RantWoman is very relieved that her conversation partner finally got that there are SOME situations for example where someone particularly a child may be in danger where forwarding without permission would absolutely be appropriate and RantWoman is not just being obstreperous by openly refusing to agree to a document she knows might need to be violated. RantWoman thinks it would be valuable to have some community conversation about to whom one might suggest forwarding something problematic and some kind of gentle wording about members of a faith community looking after posts that raise concerns.

 

4. No Other Recipients

Do not include any other individuals or groups in the “To” field of your email. Doing so would violate their privacy.

RantWoman can live with this one but she does not understand it. Some in RantWoman’s circles probably would consider inclusion in a To list a violation of their privacy but many others would not. Rantwoman also regularly gets email that includes lists she is not on, people she does not know. RantWoman finds out when she does Reply/all what bounces.

 

5. Content Must Be Appropriate

Messages should be as brief as possible, and your language must be respectful and courteous.

Do not promote particular political candidates or partisan groups.

Please minimize the number of email headers from forwarded messages.

6. No Large Attachments

Do not attach files greater than 1 MB.

7. Managing Message Flow: Thee guidelines are intended to help Friends avoid email overload but this list and different email systems offer a number of additional options for managing and sorting messages. These can be helpful and are worth learning about.

This email list is not moderated, but repeated violations of these guidelines could result in the violator being removed from the group.

There is a brand new update to Google groups effective today. RantWoman has not read thoroughly enough to see whether there is any kind of user level setting that would allow people to read but not post. RantWoman may update this post with info about that.

Please direct any questions or concerns about these guidelines to

 

[please leave a comment here because RantWoman did not seek the list creator’s permission to use her address in this post.]