Flowering

Tips for reading this rant:

RantWoman's head is about to explode--and it's not just astronomical pollen counts. RantWoman recognizes the possibility that this post may cause risk of explosions in other people's heads. Cope. Consider the problem held in the Light and Cope!

RantWoman has had multiple conversations she is not satisfied with. RantWoman has heard objections that she is overreacting. That suggestion just increase the Head about to Explode sensation. RantWoman has also heard suggestions RantWoman is supposed to deal with the head about to explode issues "privately." RantWoman is not sure what "privately" means here especially in light of the number of conversations that just feel to RantWoman like shouting. Plus RantWoman is feeling like the whole dang internet could be praying over the problem and RantWoman's head might still explode. Let us pray for a different path.

Beauty to make up
for the pollen everyone is dying from

Further tips
How many times do readers have to be told, if you do not understand something PLEASE feel invited to ask. RantWoman will do the VERY best she can to interact with equanimity and even courtesy. Okay, RantWoman promises to do the best she can but pretty much everything comes with a  Risk of sudden sarcasm warning.

How many other blog entries are people going to have to read to figure out all the reasons RantWoman's head might explode? Bear in mind: RantWoman also promises to TRY to highlight things that will cut down the Head about to Explode issues.

Further tip: a few years ago, RantWoman went to a concert featuring basically one musical theme Mozart used throughout his life. Pieces were performed in chronological order as they had been written. The theme was repeated with increasing complexity but still recognizable in each peace. Mozart died young so things did not get as complex as they might have had he lived longer.

Now we come to the head about to explode phrase "couples counseling."

A vignette from RantWoman's spell as a behavioral health bean counter. Key memes:

--"RantWoman, your department is 2 % of our costs." "Yes but 1. what we do supposedly drives 20% of these other costs and 2. Between our two departments 100% of the costing info is getting screwed up, so what can both sides do to sort things out?

--Things need to get coded correctly or people do not get paid. 

--Terminology matters and terminology that implies specific qualification and licenses needs to be treated especially carefully.

--Part of what is making RantWoman's head explode: people with TWO different topical credentials keep telling RantWoman she is supposed to be okay with what RantWoman considers incredibly sloppy and unprofessional use of terminology. When RantWoman manages to be  charitable, RantWoman is grateful for the word "retired."

--Honestly, "charitable" is not the point. On Planet RantWoman, "Couples counseling" should reserved for actual couples. Using it any other way is disrespectful of actual couples.   Even if the process of who gets to speak first is supposed to be the same, misapplication of the term "couples counseling" makes RantWoman so angry she can barely type without barfing. This problem is short-circuiting all kinds of things that absolutely do need further Light.

--For instance, while two people who, RantWoman wants to be able to hope know better, can only phrase the problem in terms of couples counseling, another Friend did a perfectly fine job of outlining a process without ever once mentioning the term couples counseling. That is, solving of problems is directly accessible to many without necessarily needing specific credentials. What process might help create some shared language to support flowering of such gifts????


In the realm of things that SLIGHTLY reduce the Head about to Explode" issues:

Pollen counts WILL subside.

Maybe RantWoman will get her reflection written about hot lava pics along sulphurous cracks between earth and sky and spring evening sunshine through the worship room clearstory windows.

RantWoman notes with HUMBLE appreciation, TWO in-person appearances IN DAYLIGHT by one Friend, Friend A, whose communication patterns have LONG been so exasperating that RantWoman is going, hopefully to be able to leave them prayed over and not enumerated. There is absolutely a "lead RantWoman not into temptation" prayer attached here though.

RantWoman also appreciates that Friend B, while perpetrating incrediblyh sloppyh use of terminology and publicly blaming RantWoman for delays caused by multiple other people, did read two key emails and figure out that both parties to the attempt at conflict resolution objected for different reasons to the venue initially proposed. RantWoman is clear about continuing need to be true to her Light but small steps matter.