Setting the Scene, with thanks to the dance between process and content
RantWoman has been well fed yesterday with phone, text, and
email leadings. RantWoman would prefer to be running on more sleep than she
currently is, but rantWoman tried and going back to sleep did not happen. There
IS an apology, actually more than one, here, but around RantWoman,the Friend
due an apology sometimes has to wait in line.
RantWoman also acknowledges that this post is everything
that drives people nuts about RantWoman communications: way too many threads in
one package. RantWoman finally figured out sometimes it is good to break things
down after she did the big scary message thing to RantMom, RantMom and Little Sister
both yelped VERY Loudly, and RantWoman got it into her head that RantMom was
mostly doing FINE about finding other info streams telling her the same things
RantWoman was trying to tell her.Today RantWoman has the time she has. Breaking
things down can come.
RantWoman HUMBLY thanks EVERYONE who has contributed to
evolution reflected in this post.
RantWoman notes a LOVELY young couple who attended Midweek
for Worship. It was to say the least VERY awkward to speak of the upcoming
Business Meeting schedule, about which RantWoman is DEFINITELY not the best
person to ask. Nope, you do NOT get any clues to who the couple is.If they
come, they will have to speak up for themselves. And if the Holy Spirit moves
well with and among Friends, RantWoman prays that Business Meeting will be one
of those OH WOW events that sometimes amazes newcomers instead of realization
of many paths to Oh YUCK.
Apology: The After Worship Version
Dear Not an Idiot Friend
THANK YOU for responding fairly promptly last night to RantWoman’s
texts! Thank you for candor in your own words instead of secondhand from a
young adult Friend.
RantWoman sincerely apologizes for hurting your feelings. RantWoman
humbly apologizes for complete inability so far to find nicer words than Idiot to
contain her concerns about difficulty reaching you by phone, text, email.
RantWoman WILL keep trying on the editorial front. RantWoman also gratefully
acknowledges some very important recent improvement in communications access.
RantWoman will be texting some further questions in the morning.
And where is God in all this?
1.
God is RantWoman’s impetus to get up and try
again.
2.
Around RantWoman God is certain that RantWoman’s
time effort, and emotional status are every bit as important as those of Not An
Idiot Friend and the fabric of our community.
3.
RantWoman is going to season the question of the
Battle of the PTSD all stars and what might help to create a space where there
is room for all to be heard and to grow. RantWoman observes that she has made
REPEATED requests to cut out secondhand mush and creat places for people to
talk. RantWoman notes that the BEST suggestion of effective process came via
the Boys and Girls Club: adult gets the kid combatants together, asks people
what happened, encourages apology and usually winds up with apology on both
sides. In the interest of editorial conciseness RantWoman will be referring
questions about the difference between this and current practice to her
Dial-a-Tirade service for now.
4.
Around RantWoman God is sure we are all still
supposed to be worshipping together., though RantWoman also commends her
recurring message about how spending (the time it takes) to figure out how to
worship together is better than bomb threats.
5.
RantWoman herself presently is at high risk of
just running screaming from the room, with shrieks of Lies Lies Lies thrown in
as a bonus. However, RantWoman COMPLETELY unites with the thought expressed by
MULTIPLE topical committees that present practices ARE NOT WORKING. As
RantWoman said last month, let us nurture what is working and quickly jettison what
is not working.
6.
God is sure there is much hurt and that if we
cannot now sit with all the hurt, we can grow together to do so.
7.
God reminds RantWoman rather firmly that overuse
of the word idiot is in fact very abelist and RantWoman will strive to cut back
on those grounds as well.
Before Worship version A
RantWoman! Just because it’s daylight does not mean you are getting to
the apology that is wanted.
Yeah. And RantWoman is tempted just to apologize for not losing her
temper sooner or in more colorful terms.
RantWoman!
Let’s try
Dear Not an Idiot Friend, RantWoman has been trying to make meaningful
contact for, like, years.Meaningful contact like by phone IN DAYLIGHT, not at
your late-night dinnertime, not at 9pm the Saturday before Meeting for Business,
By Phone, after no more than say TWO texts.
But if the word “idiot” is what finally got your attention, Praise
Jayzus!
RantWoman! You do both love this Meeting, RIGHT? So WHAT NEEDS TO
CHANGE so you can get along and the Meeting can flourish?
Dear Not an Idiot Friend, I am sorry I hurt your feelings. May we
please try again to work together?
Before Worshjp Version B
RantWoman started to address Not an Idiot Friend . Words poured off her
keyboard and (GULP!) RantWoman’s message
manglement service kind of went haywire. Below are the results. Please hold us
all in the Light.
Dear Not an idiot Friend
Thank you SO much for FINALLY reading your email. I have been trying to
get your attention for YEARS by email, multiple texts to get to a phone call,
phone call…. Rarely do correspondence get acknowledged. But if the word “idiot” is what finally got
your attention, PRAISE GOD.
Here, digesting from an even longer document is this Quaker Meeting
that I THINK we both really value and some comments from RantWoman about what
the long affiliation has meant to her..
Here is this clerk who is working very hard and whom RantWoman DEEPLY
esteems.
Thank you for sending this committee to yell at me instead of talking
to me yourself.
Sorry but your comment in business meeting needs to get in line behind
wonderful powerhouse older woman beginning chemo and the big changes in the U
District.
You and I have already had one exchange where we both minimized each
other’s perspective. Honestly, probably
not a thing we should try a steady diet of, but if a little minimization leaks
in every now and then, maybe we can just cope, call it out, and work through.
I am happy to take responsibility for lashing out in the moment in
Business Meeting IF you would like I would also be happy to apologize for not
losing my temper sooner or in more colorful terms.
But ya know, if we both SAY we care about this Meeting, what can we do
going forward so we do not get tangled up in arguments like this?
In Light and Faithfulness
RantWoman
Random allusion to Barclay and other snarky comments just because.
RantWoman wishes she could promise to lay down the Still Didn’t Get The
Memo Committee on Email Immoderation at the Association of Bad Friends, but if
anyone is interested in how RantWoman threads the line between literature
scholar, spiritual accompaniment, and crisis line in email, there might be rich
opportunities for learning.
And for those who still insist on further “…apology…,” may RantWoman
suggest a year-long romp through language, theology, and 17th
century history and thought as delivered by Barclay’s Apology?